When someone asks me this question, my mind races to all the circumstances I face on a day to day basis – good, bad, and the just plain confusing. I tend to think more about what’s happening – events, people, challenges, surprise blessings. In our day to day thoughts and conversations, we’re often content to hover at the surface – dealing simply with the facts of what is happening in our lives. What did you do today? Did you see the game last night? Can you believe he said that to me?
But there is so much more going on beneath the surface. Underneath all of our experiences is a vast collection of fears, hopes, worries, desires, hurts, dreams, and confusions. Our lives are continually being shaped by these powerful undercurrents.
When seeking out counseling, most people (including myself) want symptomatic relief – a quick change in our circumstances. But good counseling is heart work – diving below the surface to ask the question – what’s really going on inside of you? And it’s only as we see what’s happening below the surface that we’ll be able to move together towards real change.
Jared Bryant, MDiv